Love Guru Has Keen Advice On How To Approach Girls Who Have No Desire Of Being Approached

The Modern Man - So this article was written by one of those relationship gurus who preys on giving hope to losers who don't know how to talk to girls. There's really only so much advice you can give on the subject so one of their tricks for creating content is to offer insight on how to approach a "challenge" scenario and essentially make the impossible possible. So this piece here talks about the best way to approach a girl who is wearing headphones in public. Below is just some choice excerpts. Click the link above for the full bull.

These days, many women walk around playing with a smartphone or tablet device and are often wearing headphones and listening to music at the same time.

Yet, that doesn’t mean you can’t talk to them.

Yes, it does. Leave them alone.

Of course, not all women are open to being approached because not all women are single and looking.

Single or not. Not all women are open to being approached in public while wearing headphones because they aren't all desperate lunatics. They're just going to work probably.

However, if a woman wearing headphones is single and hoping to meet a boyfriend (or even a new lover), she will usually be happy to take off her headphones to give you an opportunity to create a spark with her.

Ooh. A new lover! That will get the losers excited enough to keep reading. No strings you say?

What to Do to Get Her Attention

1. Stand in front of her (with 1 to 1.5 meters between you).

2. Have a confident, easy-going smile.

3. If she hasn’t already looked up at you, simply get her attention with a wave of your hand. Wave your hand in her direct line of vision so she can see it.

Yes, make sure you wave in her direction instead of the person next to her. Unless your goal is to have them then get her attention for you. That might work.

4. When she looks at you, smile, point to her headphones and confidently ask, “Can you take off your headphones for a minute?” as you pretend to be taking headphones off your head, so she fully understands what you mean.

If she doesn’t understand that you want her to briefly take off her headphones, simply gesture that you want to talk to her by pointing back and forth from you to her and say, “I want to talk to you for a minute.”

Never mind how creepy and awkward it would be to witness that exact scenario with those exact actions and words. But if after you mime taking off headphones and the girl doesn't understand that that's what you're asking her to do, that's because she is pretending not to understand because she thinks you're a fucking tool. Either that or she's an imbecile. In any case, go back to your fantasy world.

In most cases, you won’t have to go to that extreme, but some girls are shy and will be hesitant about taking their headphones off initially. If she doesn’t want to take off her headphones, it’s probably a good sign that she doesn’t want to talk to you, so just respect that and leave the interaction.

5. If she takes off her headphones to talk to you, do what we call “Acknowledging the Awkwardness” by quickly mentioning something about the potential awkwardness of the moment (see the conversation example below), to demonstrate you understand that approaching a woman in this way isn’t the most common of experiences for either party.

If anyone were asshole enough, or out of touch enough to approach a girl wearing headphones...this isn't actually revolutionary advice on how you'd do it. It's like saying the best way to say hello to someone is to wave. Like I haven't read about a rash of incidents of guys running up to girls and pulling their headphones out of their ears while smiling nervously. 

Common Mistakes That Guys Make When Approaching Women Who Are Wearing Headphones

1. Approaching in a nervous manner

If you want the interaction to go smoothly and not feel awkward for either of you, make sure that you approach and talk to her in a relaxed, confident manner.

Most women are attracted to the strength in men (e.g. confidence, masculinity) and turned off by the weakness (e.g. nervousness, anxiety), so if you are nervous or anxious, she probably won’t be interested in talking to you.

For example: If a guy asks a girl to take off her headphones and the first words out of his mouth are, “Hi, ummm… I was, ummm… wondering, ummm… sorry to interrupt…how, ummm… are you?” you can guess what will happen next.

Headphones back in and she’ll likely turn up the volume to block him out.

Being nervous or anxious while talking to a girl is not a "mistake" guys make. It's a fucking condition some have. But girls will tell you there is creepy nervousness and there's sweet nervousness. There's both those types of confidence, too. I love the imagery of a guy just sitting there stammering "umm"s while the girl just turns up the music and he continues to stammer. Don't let that happen to you! Smile!

2. Giving up too easily

Headphones are a great barrier between a person and the rest of the world.

Some women wear headphones because they don’t want guys or anyone else to speak to them, so if you try to talk to a woman and she clearly shows that she’s not interested in talking to you, just respect that and walk away.

However, sometimes a woman will be interested in talking to a guy, but she won’t immediately pull out her headphones and show interest. Why?

If she doesn't immediately pull out her headphones, how is that not the same as clearly showing she's not interested?

Some women like to test to see how confident a guy is by ignoring his attempts to converse with her and then seeing what he does next.

So no means yes? Got it.

Does he become nervous and awkward? Does he walk away in shame, or does he remain calm and continue talking to her in a confident, easy-going manner?

If a guy gives up at the first sign of resistance, a woman like her will lose interest because he lacks the type of confidence that she looks for in a guy.

So, if you are going to talk to a woman with headphones, just keep in mind that some women will immediately take off their headphones to chat to you (desperate women), some will make it obvious that they don’t want to be bothered (normal women) and others might want to talk to you (old women?), but first want to see if you will remain confident if she doesn’t immediately begin talking to you (no, no one will do this).

 I don't blame this guy for writing this article because there is a good percentage of toolbags out there that eat this shit up and will actually probably ride the subway with no where to go just so they can try it. But anyone who thinks they're gonna meet a girl on the subway or at a grocery store or at Barnes and Nobles, you're kidding yourself, never mind the fact that they're wearing fucking earphones minding their own business. Well, I guess if you're drunk at any of those places, and she's drunk too...all bets are off and give it your best shot. Obviously, this stuff has happened before but its rare as shit and usually the people involved are cuckoo birds. Normal people meet each other; at work, at a bar, at a party/wedding or any other social setting, online or set-up through a friend. That being said, I would like to read this guy's advice on how to approach girls in the following situations:

- With a wedding ring on (using your thumb and index finger from one hand make a sliding motion down the ring finger of your other hand?)

-While they're being arrested by the police (make a running motion and/or pretend to take invisible handcuffs off?)

-While they're running out of a burning house covered in flames (start rolling around on the ground while telling her how hot she is?)